tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3757566963317785734.post8264324825786460222..comments2023-08-07T11:10:01.219-04:00Comments on Brave Bride: #105: HappySadScared TearsKim NYChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17656685309192458647noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3757566963317785734.post-65364570201682791322010-10-12T13:33:02.364-04:002010-10-12T13:33:02.364-04:00Over at APracticalWedding.com people were talking ...Over at APracticalWedding.com people were talking about the fact that there's something about getting married that makes you think a lot about your own mortality. I guess when you've got a partner it's natural to have so many hopes and expectations attached to that relationship. You've got someone/ something to live for, something aside from your own hopes, goals, and bucket list. It's beautiful but scary all at once.<br /><br />So it helps when you've got a partner with an itchy back who is much more "in the moment" than his head-in-the-clouds, worry wort wife!Kim NYChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17656685309192458647noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3757566963317785734.post-86810829407257070362010-10-12T02:52:59.901-04:002010-10-12T02:52:59.901-04:00You know these posts press all the right buttons w...You know these posts press all the right buttons with me. <br /><br />I read and I learn xxMoznoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3757566963317785734.post-13948575625707503972010-10-11T12:01:07.097-04:002010-10-11T12:01:07.097-04:00You are not alone!You are not alone!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3757566963317785734.post-39871131515103846562010-10-11T11:49:55.019-04:002010-10-11T11:49:55.019-04:00"...What if you die young? Or what if I died ..."...What if you die young? Or what if I died at age 35 - what would you do???<br />Brian: [He turns away.] I have an itch - can you scratch my back?"<br /><br />Soooooooooooo can relate! First off, Ben has woken up to the sounds of me sobbing in bed on several occasions. The reasons could be a be anything from a book I've read to a panic attack. Second, this has become by number one fear (which replaced my fear of never finding love) and Ben's reaction is so similar to Brians too lol. <br /> It doesn't help that 3 generations of women on my dad's side were widowed young. But then again on my mom's side my grandparents have been married 64 years and my parents 35. <br />Of course, that reassurance is often overtaken by the panicked thought "But I look more like the women on my dad's side of the family!" as if being widowed is a genetic trait that can be inherited the same way as hair color, eye color or body build. <br /> I get scared even talking/writing about this type of thing usually, scared that if I focus on it it will happen.<br /> I agree, it's a double edged sword. The penalty for being happy in the present is knowing that you actually have something to lose in the future. But I wouldn't trade in the present happiness to allieviate the present fear of the future. Not for all the tea in china!Stephhttp://www.opendiary.com/entrylist.asp?authorcode=A478639noreply@blogger.com