Tuesday, June 1, 2010
#6: Letting go of option #2
(Note: This post is about a dress. But it's also about that special ex-boyfriend/ ex-girlfriend from your past. What?? Huh???)
Okay, I try to be a laid back person who sees the big picture and appreciates the simple things in life...
But then the wedding dress hunt began-- and I became one completely INSANE woman. I've been making myself, my fiance, and my dress maker crazy with my indecision and last-minute changes regarding the design of my custom dress.
And last night, it happened again- I started to second guess myself. Upon reviewing my top 5 favorite wedding dresses from yesterday's post, I realized that there are 2 kinds of wedding dresses that I like. And since I went with option #1 for the design of my custom dress, I've been wondering if it was a mistake not to go with option #2.
And then it hit me. Letting go of option #2 is like letting go of the man in your life who you might have married had you not met the man who would eventually become your #1 choice.
It's not easy letting go of that other option (be it a dress or a man) because it/he had some amazing qualities. Not choosing #2 feels as if you're minimizing how much it meant to you. But most of all, it still feels like a huge loss no matter what you've gained by choosing option #1. (Wait, are we talkin' the dress or the man here? I'll leave that up to your interpretation.)
I'm only human. So I'm going to wonder about option #2 from time to time, and that's okay. But what scares me is when all of this wondering makes me question how happy I am with the one I've chosen.
And this, my friends, is where commitment comes in. Eventually I've got to do it-- even when I'm totally scared and guilty about that fear. I must "Say Yes to the Dress" knowing full well that there are other wonderful eligible bachelors, err...DRESSES out there. Because once you've found a good one you've got to hold on tight or you'll end up with nothing.
So this is me committing. To the dress, to the man.