So...from the most popular response to the least, you guys requested that Brave Bride feature:
1. Inspiring stuff about balls and personal growth/ Kim's psychotherapy babble
2. Budget-friendly and creative wedding ideas
3. Kim's personal thoughts on love and marriage
4. Brave weddings & interviews
5. Whatever Kim wants to write is fine by me!
Shocking, I tell you. But in a good way.
First, I was surprised by how close the results were. Each item was separated by one vote, except for #5....because you wouldn't let me get away with things that easily, now would you? ;)
Second, I'm surprised that you guys are so into the balls/ personal growth/ psychotherapy stuff. All along I had been writing about these particular topics for myself, not so much for others. I struggle to be brave. I struggle to speak my mind. I'm that shy girl in the office who eats her lunch alone. I'm the girl who, 24/7, is wondering what the world thinks of her every move. I'm the awkward girl at house parties eating chips in the corner of the room, pretending that she's not at all uncomfortable with the fact that no one is talking to her - because you know, she's just there for those delicious chips. So yeah. I'm rather obsessed with talking about courage, growth, and change, you see, because I want it so badly for myself. Needless to say it's TOTALLY encouraging to know that you'd like me to write more on what I'm most passionate about. Seriously, who knew?
Oh, and for those of you who voted for the topics that didn't take the crown: don't worry, I got your back. I'll occasionally be posting about the remaining topics on the list because like I said, they didn't trail the #1 spot by very much.
So that's my game plan to make this blog YOUR blog. I started writing to "pay it forward". I write to help others. And I intend to keep it that way.
But my husband occasionally reminds me that I should enjoy being the writer of this blog. With the time and commitment it takes to write 5 essays a week, it's got to be as fulfilling and useful for me as it is for you. Otherwise, I might end up a burned out mess who has had it up to here with wedding talk. Yikes.
So. Time for my announcement:
During the rest of this month (we'll see what will happen after that), I'm going to experiment with posting 3 times per week instead of 5 times. That means that on Mondays and Fridays I'm off duty. This will give me more time to write strong content on the topics you want to read more about. It's about quality over quantity.
I'll admit - I'm struggling with a little bit of blogger's guilt. (You know, taking a break from writing and feeling like I should apologize for it.) But it's not like the world will come crashing down if Kim from New York blogs a little less. Seriously, I've got to get over myself!
As you all know, life consists of many different seasons. And during this season, I need Fridays and Mondays off. I need more balance and less blogging! And that's all it is.
So people: thank you, thank you, thank you! For reading, for participating in my poll, for putting up with me, and for listening. Big cyber hugs to one and all! :)
Me, this past Sunday, balancing NOT blogging:
Posts
I literally cannot believe you eat lunch alone.
ReplyDeleteAlso, if I can be so bold, and if you write in advance, I'd personally enjoy MWF as opposed to TWR posts- you know, to spread the balls around? It's totally selfish though. Other blogs I read take Friday off, so it's a bummer to my lunch break (also spent alone!) But whatever it takes to keep your writing mojo is fine with me.
Good luck on the new features! (and with balancing your life, I try as well!)
ReplyDeleteYou're not the shy girl in the corner eating chips when I invite you to a party. Hmmm
ReplyDeletegiving yourself the scheduled days off will be a great thing. continue the therapizing psychology babble!
ReplyDelete@ Carolyn - "To spread the balls around." Ha! I know what you mean, but since I generally don't write in advance I can't make any promises. However...part of my reason for cutting down to 3 posts per week is so that I'll have time on Mondays to write a 3-day week's worth of posts and bang it all out at once. So maybe you'll get your wish. We'll see!
ReplyDelete@ Poet - I LOVE your friends. Seriously. They're silly, down to earth, offbeat, smart, and just a smidge geeky. A winning combo in my book. I can be myself with them. :)
@ Angie & Lizzie - Thanks, ladies! As bad ass daily bloggers yourselves I think you know where I'm coming from when I say I need a bit of a break.
I love your blog. It's one of the few wedding-ish blogs I read post-wedding. I guess I still need the balls.
ReplyDeleteI will miss reading you on Mondays and Fridays, but I am SO proud of you for taking care of yourself and putting yourself first. We all know that takes major balls and I/the rest of us here love you even more for it!!! :)
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