A recent poll was conducted (umm...by me...at my bridal shower) asking women ages 27 through 60+ about their likes and dislikes in terms of wedding favors. They answered the following questions:
(1) If you are (or ever have been) married, what did you give away as a wedding favor?
(2) What is the best wedding favor you have ever received?
Below are the results. Note that some items have a number in front indicating the amount of people who shared that particular answer.
Favor given at own wedding:
(3) Don't remember
(2) "No such thing" as wedding favors at the time I was married
"We didn't give favors"
Hershey Kisses in champagne glass
a poem wrapped in a wedding band
small photo album
Best wedding favor ever received:
(5) no answer/ I don't know
(3) mix CD
(2) small bottle of champagne
"I love the tea for [this] shower!"
champagne flutes with chocolate
Conclusions about first set of data:
Nearly half of the women either did not remember what favors they had given at their wedding, or had married at a time when wedding favors were simply not in vogue. (And one of these women was married in the early 80's - not too long ago!) This tells me that the favor you choose to give away is (often) an insignificant detail in the overall memory of your wedding day. And in some points in history (and in some places around the world), wedding favors simply don't exist. Gee, lucky for the wedding industry American couples nowadays devote lots of time and money on this part of their big day.
Conclusions about second set of data:
A relatively large group of women had no answer about their favorite wedding favor ever received. This can be explained in 2 possible ways:
- The favor was one of the least memorable parts of the wedding day experience
- These individuals have a bad memory
The data also suggests that people love music, chocolate, and alcohol. Perhaps one of these options is the safest bet when choosing a wedding favor. But while we can predict which favors will be enjoyed by a large percentage of guests, we cannot make everyone happy. (Because you know, you might have one oddball aunt who likes "bells"). And quite frankly, many people won't even remember what you had given them anyway.
I conducted my "research" (if you can call it that) to ease brides' anxiety about choosing the perfect favor. But this doesn't mean that people cannot have fun or be creative when the time comes to make that decision! Choosing a favor can be a great place to show your personalities as a couple. But I've said it before and I'll say it again:
Approach favors as you would any birthday gift you give to a friend; put some thought into it, be sincere in your intentions, hope they like it, and carry on. Because it's not actually about the giveaway itself-- it's about your intentions and show of gratitude and love. Just because the favor happens to be tied to a once-in-a-lifetime event, doesn't mean that it has to be a once-in-a-lifetime/ super creative/ super expensive/ super unique object.